What might be secretly hindering your self-confidence and your ability to go out and dominate your path everyday?
The Murray Mission with a DARK… ominous.. leading question for you today.
Before I answer that I want to introduce you to a pal of mine. He’s a philosopher and one of the greatest thinkers of the 20th century.
It pains me that nobody has heard of him 😦
But he is going to become a lot more popular in the coming years. He wrote a book called The True Believer and has a lot of other incredible wisdom in his library of philosophical gifts.
His name is Eric Hoffer.
And Eric has one quote that really stuck out to me that I wanted to share with you:
“The problem with people is that they have faith in what they don’t have, and they don’t want what they do have”
People only have 100% confidence in what they don’t have yet, everything they see celebrities with on TV. And this will obviously bring down your confidence. They ache and pain for these things so they can feel complete.
You have literally been trained by a media and marketing machine, to LOATHE what you do have, and put the utmost faith in what you don’t have yet. You can’t even control this desire; it’s been subconsciously planted inside you from a young age.
It doesn’t stop at the material things though. You’ve even been trained to loathe yourself and the characteristics you have, and to seek solutions for them.
Hold yourself in low esteem + Hold what you don’t have/aren’t in the highest esteem= Perfect formula for lowering confidence.
Now here’s where I’ll start to get some objections: “So your saying I shouldn’t want nice things or enjoy the luxuries of life? That doesn’t sound right.”
My response: There’s a key difference between wanting something and needing something. Wanting something vs. putting your faith and entrusting your happiness in things you don’t have yet. The conversation of want vs. need is a big one that I’ll go into another day though.
The point is you can certainly want nice things and strive to own them. I know I do. But they should be the whipped cream on top of your ice cream. Your mission/purpose is your ice cream. The nice luxuries are the whipped cream.
Your life is still good just as a bowl of ice cream. If you are doing what you love and are passionate about, then you’re going to live one hell of a life regardless. But the nice luxuries can be the cool whipped cream on top to make it even better.
Ignoring what you love to do in order to make more money would be like eating a shitty flavor of ice cream, and just adding more whipped cream on top.
It won’t taste very good unless the ice cream flavor is good, or you are doing what you would do on this Earth if there were no such thing as money.
So back to the main topic: Think about the things in your house right now. How many of them do you still want? How many will you want 3 or 5 years from now?
If you purchased them because someone else wanted them for you, then I can nearly assure you that you don’t want them now. The second you bought it, people stopped selling you on that thing. And now you’re just left with something you didn’t really want in the first place.
Conversely, how many things do you desire right now that you have the utmost faith in?
Would a vacation make you happier?
Would a new car make you happier?
Would a raise make you happier?
Would winning the lottery make you happier? (probably)
Train yourself to want what you already have. How would you go about that….? Think about it. It’s a tough one.
CHALLENGING QUESTIONS from The Murray Mission today. I can’t answer them for you right now, that’s something I do with private clients and involves some exercises. I just wanted to provoke some thought and make you aware.
I’ll end with a quote from the great Jim Rohn: “Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want”